Growing up as a performer, there has always been a pressure to be thin. I’ve been told by various producers to lose weight or tone my muscles in different ways on various occasions. I’ve been told to get a boob-job, told to “figure out how to get my ass smaller”... Been criticized for being too skinny, and I’ve been called gross for my shoulder blades sticking out too far.
I just figured that that’s the business of show business, and that everyone (and I mean everyone) has an opinion. Typically, I’ve just held my own, done my own thing, but such comments can weigh on you and warp your perspective. I’ve struggled with eating, and am actively striving to improve the situation.
Clearly, though, these pressures are present everywhere, beyond working in entertainment, and much of that comes from media and advertising, which you’re already well aware of. While there are new campaigns that boast a lack of retouching, it hardly scratches the surface.
Furthermore, there are new mantras being spewed into our consciousness such as “strong is sexy,” but this still adds layers of most of us not feeling good enough. Now not only do we feel the pressure to be thin, as that hasn’t gone away, but there’s also the pressure to be fit. We have to have guns for arms, washboard abs, and perfect glutes. Most of this, still, is unattainable in an average setting.
The bottom line is that feeling comfortable in your own skin is sexy… “Healthy is sexy” is what we should be touting. However, healthy looks different for each of us. And because it's so individualized, you can’t standardize it, which means it’s hard to monetize it, i.e. come up with products to sell for it, which may mean that you can’t publicize it, i.e. media and advertising. But I’m not giving up. The real thing we should be working on is self-love, which is from what true confidence stems.
For me to be healthy, I need to eat three full meals a day with snacks in between, work out in a non-judgemental way for thirty minutes a few times a week for my mind, as well as my body, get enough sleep, and enjoy a happy beauty regime focused on my tastes. I work on practicing self-love, and concentrate my efforts on finding what’s fulfilling for me.